Rochester Kink Society Fetish & BDSM Club
Address: Rochester, NY, USA
RKS is neither a sex club, swingers group, nor dating service; don’t expect to see or get sex. RKS is a place to meet other kinky people, but it is up to you to be social and encourage friendship-building. If you happen to meet someone through RKS and hit it off, we’re happy for you! But becoming a member makes no guarantees when it comes to finding a relationship.
Expect to take some initiative on socializing- someone will show you around when you arrive and some members will introduce themselves. But, others will be busy catching up with friends they haven’t seen in a while— be prepared to introduce yourself or join in a conversation. Hiding in the corner is likely to yield an unsatisfactory experience. Many of our members are thrilled to get to know and talk to new faces. Feel free to include yourself in conversations, you will most like get a positive response in return.
If you are coming into RKS from being an “online” player, expect to relearn everything you know. Online play is often unrealistic and stereotyped—most notably, if you’re a Dominant, you’re not every submissive’s Dominant; if you’re a sub, don’t grovel before every Dominant. Until you find someone and start to play, we’re all equals. When you’re done playing, you’re back to being equal.
Do not expect that just because you’ve played with someone, that you will start dating or that they will go home with you. If that’s something you want, talk about it beforehand. Miscommunication and unspoken expectations can lead to a bad experience for everyone involved.
Expect people to be, well, people. Just because we’re into BDSM doesn’t mean you must like everyone, or that we’re all great. We’re regular people with jobs, families, and other interests. Like any group, our membership is composed of people who are friendly and mean, shy and outgoing, resilient and fragile, easy-going and pompous. What you can expect is for others to show the same respect to you, that we expect of you.
Expect to see people of all genders (not just male & female) with an assortment of sexual orientations, fetishes & interests, in various states of dress or undress including nudity. There may be people dressed to the hilt in leather, PVC, rubber, lingerie and corsets while others are in a T-shirt and comfortable jeans (black and red are popular colors). Expect to see things you’re totally intrigued by, and conversely expect things you are not entirely comfortable with— and be prepared to remind yourself that it is consensual.
Similarly, don’t expect everyone to be into every aspect of play. Some people won’t have your interests, and there may even be some who are bothered by your kinks. Remember that they’re allowed their feeling, but expect them to respect your interest as valid too.